It can be very difficult facing up to problems and recognising that you are causing harm to those closest to you.
Abuse is something that is said or done which hurts another person physically, emotionally, sexually or mentally. These behaviours may occur frequently or infrequently. In most cases there is a pattern of abuse.
Abuse doesn't just happen. Rather than being about loss of control, as a lot of people think, most of the time it's about you trying to be in control.
It is important that you face up to how your behaviour affects your partner and your children. The more you can understand what it is like for your partner, and how it might impact on your children, the harder it will be to behave badly towards them in the future.
Services are available that can help you make changes so that your partner and children can be around you safely. Changing abusive behaviours is a long and difficult process but is achievable.