Child to parent violence, or adolescent to parent violence (APVA), is any behaviour used by a child or young person to control, dominate, or coerce you. It's threatening and intimidating, and can put the rest of your family at risk.
While it's normal for some adolescents to demonstrate healthy anger, conflict, or frustration as they transition between childhood and adulthood, anger should not be confused with violence. Violence is about a range of behaviours including non-physical acts aimed at achieving ongoing control over another person by instilling fear.
APVA is likely to involve a pattern of behaviour, which may include physical violence, damage to property, emotional abuse, or financial / economic abuse.
It can be difficult to admit that your child is abusive. You may feel ashamed, disappointed, and humiliated, and blame yourself for the situation. If you're a victim of APVA, help is available for both you and the child who is perpetrating the abuse.
If you're in immediate danger, or in an emergency, contact the police on 999.
If it's not an emergency, you can get support via your child's school or health professional, or your GP. You can also contact:
- Middlesbrough Multi Agency Children's Hub by calling 01642 726004. If you need help outside of office hours, you can call 01642 524552.
- domestic abuse charity My Sisters Place by calling 01642 241864 or emailing email@example.com
- Accessing Change Together by emailing firstname.lastname@example.org or calling 01642 726800. If you need help outside of office hours, you can call 01642 726800 and the out of hours service will help you.